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‘I remember thinking, why did I let this woman whose entire job is to orchestrate breakups influence my own belief in this relationship?’
In bustling cities across China, a unique type of consultant exists: the “mistress dispeller.” These professionals are hired by spouses seeking to end their partner’s infidelity, masterfully navigating complex relationships to convince the lover to break things off. The remarkable aspect? When all goes according to their elaborate plan, those involved truly believe the decision to end the affair was their own.
On this intriguing episode of “Modern Love,” filmmaker Elizabeth Lo shares her immersive three-year experience alongside a mistress dispeller. She delves into the intricate techniques and psychological secrets behind their success, revealing how this unusual documentary project profoundly influenced her own romantic life, leading to an unexpected personal breakup.
Don’t miss Lo’s compelling documentary, “Mistress Dispeller,” now showing in select theaters.
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